In the meantime... I have started to read Bodhipaksa's excellent reflections on impermanence in his new book, Living As a River (Sounds True.) I'll be writing more about this book when I have finished reading it, but I can already sense that it's one of those books that change the way I look at things. I'm currently in a chapter on the impermanence of the body, which I was reading earlier in the afternoon. Then, later, in the sauna, I sat noticing how the seemingly solid flesh turned more and more rapidly into liquid, seeping out through the pores of the body and becoming, clearly, "not-me" in the process. (Hamlet's wish come true! Remember? "Oh, that this too, too solid flesh would melt.") And then, shaving, couldn't help but pay attention to the way the facial hairs, so recently a part of "me," washed down the drain to become a part of... something else. I would otherwise have overlooked these powerful phenomena.
Apologies for the intimate details. Hope you're not squeamish. But it's simple things like these that reinforce the teaching: "this is not me, this is not mine, I am not this." What we think of as the self deconstructs and reconstructs continuously in these--and other--ways. It's salutary to watch it happening before your eyes.
Bodhipaksa writes of these profound things with simple elegance and clarity. I'm looking forward to getting back to him. By that time, I imagine I'll be a different me!